Mental wellbeing is important at every stage of life, and growing older can sometimes bring changes that affect how a person feels.

Retirement, bereavement, changes in health, reduced mobility or spending less time with friends and family can all have an impact. For someone living with dementia, changes in their surroundings, routines or abilities can also affect their emotional wellbeing.

While feeling lonely or low shouldn’t simply be seen as a normal part of ageing, there are many simple ways families can help an older loved one feel connected, valued and engaged.

From spending quality time together to encouraging favourite hobbies, small moments can make a big difference.

Here are five ways you can support an older loved one’s mental wellbeing.

1. Spend quality time together

Regular social interaction can be incredibly important for emotional wellbeing.

A visit, phone call or shared cup of tea can give your loved one something to look forward to and provide an opportunity to talk, laugh and reminisce together.

Try talking about the things that matter to them – their interests, memories, favourite places or family stories – rather than focusing solely on health or practical matters.

For someone living with dementia, familiar conversations and reminiscence can be particularly meaningful. Looking through old photographs, listening to favourite music or talking about important moments from their life can help create a sense of connection.

If you can’t visit as often as you’d like, video calls, photographs and letters can also help you stay connected.

2. Encourage hobbies and meaningful activities

Having a sense of purpose and things to look forward to can make a real difference to someone’s wellbeing.

Encourage your loved one to continue enjoying the hobbies and interests they have always loved. This could be gardening, baking, reading, knitting, painting, music or puzzles.

It’s also worth adapting activities to suit their abilities. Even if they can no longer do something in exactly the same way, there may be another way for them to get involved.

For example, someone who has always enjoyed gardening might help choose flowers or arrange them, while someone who enjoys cooking could help with simple preparation.

For people living with dementia, familiar activities can help bring back happy memories and provide opportunities to maintain independence.

3. Keep moving and spend time outdoors

Staying physically active can benefit both physical and mental wellbeing.

This doesn’t have to involve strenuous exercise. A gentle walk, some light gardening, chair exercises or simply spending time outside can all help someone stay active throughout the day.

Getting some fresh air and enjoying a change of scenery can also provide a welcome boost, particularly for someone who spends a lot of time indoors.

The most important thing is to choose activities that your loved one enjoys and that are suitable for their mobility and abilities.

4. Help them stay connected to others

Relationships and a sense of belonging are important throughout our lives.

Where possible, encourage your loved one to maintain connections with friends, neighbours and family members. Community groups, local activities and social events can also provide opportunities to meet people and enjoy shared interests.

Even everyday activities can become social occasions. Going for a coffee, attending a local event, enjoying a favourite hobby together or simply sitting and chatting can help break up the day and give someone something to look forward to.

At Crouched Friars, we understand the importance of creating a warm and welcoming environment where residents can spend time together, build friendships and enjoy meaningful activities.

5. Look out for changes in their mood

Changes in someone’s mental wellbeing aren’t always immediately obvious.

You might notice that your loved one has become quieter, withdrawn or less interested in activities they previously enjoyed. They may appear more anxious, frustrated or tired, or simply seem different from their usual self.

Take the time to ask how they’re feeling and, most importantly, listen without judgement.

If you’re concerned about your loved one’s mental health, speak to their GP or another appropriate healthcare professional. Seeking advice early can help ensure they receive the right support.

Small moments can make a big difference

Supporting an older loved one’s mental wellbeing doesn’t always require a grand gesture. Often, it’s the everyday moments that matter most – a familiar song, a favourite activity, a shared laugh, a cup of tea or simply having someone there to listen.

At Crouched Friars Residential Care Home, we believe that emotional wellbeing is an important part of providing person-centred care. Our team takes the time to get to know each resident as an individual, including their interests, routines, preferences and life stories.

From creative activities and flower arranging to music, games, social occasions and time spent together, we provide opportunities for residents to stay engaged, connected and involved in daily life.

If you’re considering care for an older loved one and would like to find out more about life at Crouched Friars, we’d be happy to hear from you.